Your Ni Dom

Masculine and Feminine Energy

This reflection is mainly about understanding masculine and feminine energy as a social construct. It is influenced by a prominent INTJ YouTuber who attempts to integrate cognitive functions into the consideration of masculinity and femininity. Along the way, I talk about being a dominant observer but a double decider. I talk about the impact that being an Enneagram 8 has on how I decide and take action in the world. Finally (and it's actually where I start), I talk about being vulnerable.

Cognitive Dissonance

In the first half of this reflection (after the introduction), I offer a mini-lesson on cognitive dissonance as both a concept and a process. However, in the second half, I talk about the different types of dissonance I personally experience and the intellectual AND emotional reactions I have to them. The greatest value of this reflection (for me) is how I connect cognitive functions which then explains the dissonance for which I am drawn and the dissonance for which I am repulsed.

Intent vs Impact

This reflection ends with a question around impact vs impact. Most of the conversation is me discusing two impact-situations that did not match my intentions. One was with a colleague who experienced me as an INTJ8 (although he was not the intended target for my INTJ8-ness). The other was with a student (who self identifies as an INFP). In the reflection, you will hear me trying to balance care (for her) with authenticity (for myself). Note: the first 10 minutes of this episode is me talking through my operating system (four disciplines that influence my worldview on a daily basis). Note 2: Another point of conversation (made later in the reflection) is on education as a political experience for black people.

Sensitivity

This reflection is Part 2 to Seeing. It wrestles with understanding sensitivity as a physical, emotional or intellectual phenomenon.

Seeing

I end this reflection with a discussion on seeing people as opposed to experiencing them. Along the way I talk about the nature of seeing. I also talk about being a seeing person and the three ways I have experienced my seeing-nature (as relating to people). There is a three part assignment at the end which will be eventually uploaded to www.yournidom.wordpress.com.

Thinking

This reflection ends with a question about our conscious relationship with thinking. Along the way, I talk about the thought bubbles I have been in that include several subtopics: 1) feelings and the socialization of women; 2) giftedness and divergency; and 3) narcissism and love.

The Path of Least Resistance

In this reflection I talk about the path of least resistance (choosing it) as a phenomenon of the human experience. I connect this phenomenon to the social world (and its social order) and then use this reasoning as a way to understand the act of defaulting. Along the way, I question conditions of hate, care and privilege in our society. An assignment is given at the end and will be posted on my website: yournidom.wordpress.com

Defaulting

This reflection is about the ways our learnings become automatic and how we then default our way through the world. As a build up to this consideration, I talk about Vice President Kamala Harris, interracial dating, historically black colleges, predominately white spaces, life, and barriers to quality living. Visit www.yournidom.wordpress.com for the assignment.

It's in the Conjunction

In this reflection I posit that conjunctions help to give nuance. Centering much of this conversation around race, gender and personality, I challenge the listener to consider deeper ways to know people beyond the obvious. Note: this reflection has a fair degree of disjointedness in that I fell into a few exciting rabbit holes. All the same, I was able to bring them together for one consideration around the nuance that can be derived from the words "but" and "and". An assignment is given at the end and will be posted on my website: yournidom.wordpress.com.

Growing the Self and Confronting Shame

This reflection ends with a stated question: What is one area of your growth that is attached to shame? This question is connected to a running thesis that shame impedes growth. As a build up to this question, I talk about the sense of self (as a calling to develop it in others)--especially among those whose sense of self was damaged by chaotic family structures. I also talk about theory building, Christianity and congregational possibilities for sense of self development. Finally I talk about Your Ni Dom project as one for the growing (and possibly the healing) self.