Your Ni Dom

Motivation

In this reflection, I talk motivation as a concept. First I explore repression as in what drives us to repress certain areas in our lives and then what motivates us to tackle those areas. I then talk about deadlines and procrastination--challenging us to think about stress as well as the different ways to understand time management. Finally, I conclude with a conversation around an academic treatment of motivation and connect it back to my initial consideration of repression. Theoretical Frames: MBTI- Fe, Te, and Ni; Enneagram 8, Trauma.

Can Light Co-exist with the Dark?

This reflection considers the dark as in what causes it. It challenges us to understand darkness as an external condition as opposed to an internal one. Finally, it asks us how we, as entities of light, enter into and re-engage with the dark?

Your Happy

I start this reflection thinking about actions I take when I am feeling sad. I bring consciousness to the feeling of sadness and then begin to question the state of my auxiliary function. In this reflection, I also talk about the three extroverted thinking (Te) activities that make me happy. I do fall into two political rabbit holes about the effectiveness of teachers and the historical treatment of black students. Frameworks Discussed: Enneagram Type 8, INTJ, and Anti-Racism (vs No Racism)

Darkness and Attraction

This reflection is about darkness (personal toxicities) and attraction (the ways you are naturally drawn to people). I end with a question that brings together these two consideration. How does your dark (even from the past) influence your attraction to people? Throughout this reflection, I consider this question for myself. MBTI Connection: INTJ's problem solving nature. Enneagram Connection: Totem pole desire's of Type 5 (as a disintegrated 8).

Resolve

The overarching theme of this reflection is about being resolved. In it, I talk about validated desires as well as a validated sense of self. Only through such validation will the resolve be cemented. To get to this end, I continue my reflections on social interactions. I highlight my need for rational exchanges, including those that are from the heart. Finally, I talk about fight, flight, and freeze, emotional intelligence and healing work. MBTI Points: Fe, Fi and Thinking.

Social Interactions

By the end of this reflection, I propose a model for healthy social Interactions. To get to this end, I unpack the following concepts: defense mechanisms (raising the question if they are healthy); operating with an emotional track (whether or not one is aware of its existence); failed relationships as bridges (for better opportunities); the child within (and its relationship with the adult within); and attunement (juxtaposed against understanding). This is a concept heavy reflection. MBTI Themes: INTJ, INFJ and Judging

Adulthood. It's Complicated.

This reflection ends with a conversation around childhood complications when parents have not healed from their own childhoods. However, the full discussion is filled with related randomness: about the menstrual cycle (starting as a young girl), about (perceived) rights of passages into womanhood, about adult children of alcoholic parents, about the weaponization of parental power, and about smiling and the politics of beauty. *MBTI Talking Points: Ni, INTJ, INFJ, Fe, and ESFJ

The Self as Form

This reflection starts off as a survey of my latest thinking: a) the intellectual playbook and who owns it; b) maternal love; and c) the self as aspiration, illusion and form. I then move into a lengthy consideration of the the third thought (as relating to the self). Finally, I close with a mash-up of all three where I consider the self as anti-erasure work (particularly for people raised with a denied sense of self). Random points discussed: cognitive functions that are irrational and subjective; poetry; and emotional darkness. An assignment is given at the end and will be uploaded at www.yournidom.wordpress.com.

Evolution

The overarching theme of this reflection is about evolving. In it, I talk about my evolution on Tiktok (moving from play to work), my evolution as an educator, and my evolution as a messenger. I end the reflection asking listeners about when they allow for evolution versus when they block it. Random talking points along the way: work as fun versus work as labor; inductive thinking versus deductive thinking; and tertiary/inferior functions being opportunities as opposed to being liabilities.

Identity, Intimacy and the Self

This reflection ends with a discussion (and a question) on identity, intimacy and a healthy relationship with the self. Along the way, I talk about my own identity (particularly as an organizational leader) and my work with intimacy (while recovering from family trauma). Points of Randomness: friendships, teaching, entrepreneurship, spirituality, and ENTJ action vs INTJ action.