Your Ni Dom

Thinking

This reflection ends with a question about our conscious relationship with thinking. Along the way, I talk about the thought bubbles I have been in that include several subtopics: 1) feelings and the socialization of women; 2) giftedness and divergency; and 3) narcissism and love.

The Path of Least Resistance

In this reflection I talk about the path of least resistance (choosing it) as a phenomenon of the human experience. I connect this phenomenon to the social world (and its social order) and then use this reasoning as a way to understand the act of defaulting. Along the way, I question conditions of hate, care and privilege in our society. An assignment is given at the end and will be posted on my website: yournidom.wordpress.com

Defaulting

This reflection is about the ways our learnings become automatic and how we then default our way through the world. As a build up to this consideration, I talk about Vice President Kamala Harris, interracial dating, historically black colleges, predominately white spaces, life, and barriers to quality living. Visit www.yournidom.wordpress.com for the assignment.

It's in the Conjunction

In this reflection I posit that conjunctions help to give nuance. Centering much of this conversation around race, gender and personality, I challenge the listener to consider deeper ways to know people beyond the obvious. Note: this reflection has a fair degree of disjointedness in that I fell into a few exciting rabbit holes. All the same, I was able to bring them together for one consideration around the nuance that can be derived from the words "but" and "and". An assignment is given at the end and will be posted on my website: yournidom.wordpress.com.

Growing the Self and Confronting Shame

This reflection ends with a stated question: What is one area of your growth that is attached to shame? This question is connected to a running thesis that shame impedes growth. As a build up to this question, I talk about the sense of self (as a calling to develop it in others)--especially among those whose sense of self was damaged by chaotic family structures. I also talk about theory building, Christianity and congregational possibilities for sense of self development. Finally I talk about Your Ni Dom project as one for the growing (and possibly the healing) self.

Sometimes You've Gotta Lose to Win

This reflection is about a conflict between harmony (Fe) and authenticity (Fi) within the context of family systems theory.

Sibling Rivalry

This reflection is Part 2 to a larger reflection about being an INTJ8. In it I talk about the ways family trauma continues across generations.

Siblings Sharing Chaotic Spaces

This reflection, which is scheduled to be Part 1 to a larger conversation about being an INTJ8, deals with sister dynamics when the childhood home was filled with chaos and abuse.

Feelings

This reflection is about an extraverted feeler (INFJ) wanting access to my introverted feeling (INTJ), especially since it's third in my stack. In this reflection I talk about insecurities around abandonment and rejection and how I am no longer governed by these insecurities. I also talk about my analytical preference and the role it plays in protecting my introverted feelings. Finally, I talk briefly about the burden of being an Ni dom and how people do not like being on the receiving end of Ni observations. Random note: the core value of this reflection is in talking about the difference between being a cognitive partner and being an advisor and the fluidity (or not) of moving in-between those two roles.

Being an Observer

This reflection ends with a discussion about being an observer and having the ability to observe the inner world as well as the outer world. Another point about being an observer, specifically in observing the inner world, delineates between thinking and feeling. In the reflection I become aware of my ability to observe (and analyze by way of my Te) my feelings even if, at the time, I'm not conscious that observing (and analyzing) is what I'm doing. Note: I drop into two rabbit holes in route to my main consideration: writing (being a writer) and some family drama.