Your Ni Dom

Giftedness

This reflection has two parts that come together for a consideration on giftedness.  In the first part, I talk about academic and critical pursuits in a space antithetical to advanced thinking.  In the second part, I talk about unknowingly interviewing for a position beyond the level of the position in which I applied.  I close the reflection by loosely talking about the five traits of giftedness.  

Being Online

In this reflection, I talk about psychosocial play online.  Specifically, I tell the story of someone who tried to accuse me of not being able to notice/follow social cues.  Along the way, I also talk about observing the outer word, the inner world and the online world.  Finally, I talk briefly about observing the body and post-humous traditions and taboos.  

Trauma, Growth and Friendships

In this reflection, I talk about intergenerational trauma and how it plays out around you.  I also talk about personal growth (as relating to that trauma).    Finally, I talk about interest-based friendships as opposed to trauma-based friendships.  Random points:  Se/Te readiness; INTJ with ENTJ tendencies; and Daddy updates. 

Power and the Matrix

In this reflection, I lean into the social sciences and my academic research on power.  I share my thinking about power-over and power-under as being two sides of the same coin. I then contrast the power-over/power-under phenomenon against power-sharing.  Finally, I talk about the matrix and the natural ways we all participate in the one of the two interpersonal power-structures.  

Loving through the Confusion

In this reflection, I use my two dogs to consider loving that is hurtful.  

Social and Emotional Being

In this reflection, I talk about socio-emotional learning (SEL) as the latest buzz word in education. I use the concept to make a case that humans are social and emotional beings and considering our socio-emotional capacity (maturity) is critical to our wellness and growth.  

Bubblegum and Fire

In this reflection, I use two loose (incomplete) metaphors to explore self care and personal responsibility (bubblegum and fire).  Along the way, I consider the following:  the self as a pattern of behaviors (as represented by a recognized pattern of responses to those behaviors); growing yet still loving within intergenerational trauma; respecting certain elements of the socio-emotional world as harmful; perceiving trauma versus feeling trauma; the need for extroverted thinking to have verifiable data; and emotions as a layered phenomenon.  

Anger and Control

Much of this reflection is about me exploring my relationship to anger as an INTJ8. I talk about when I distance myself from anger and when I lean into it (specifically considering each of the cognitive functions of my stack). Interesting side discussions: INTJ5s relationship to anger and extroverted sensing; rational anger versus irrational anger; and an update on my father (with Stage 4 cancer) and my sister's repressed (??) reaction to it.

Rebellion and Confrontation

This reflection is about the different ways I was rebellious and confrontational at a 1st Amendment conference (as understood through Enneagram literature for Type 8s). Talking points: status, strength and awe of legal scholars; race and gender; anger and emotion; and body, movement and instinct. [I ran out of time. I will come back later to finish the so what to it all. ]

Fixed Contemplation

This reflection ends with a question about outward contemplation... in when and how (if at all) one is able to do joint-contemplation with another. Along the way, I talk about contemplation as my default and how joint-contemplation is a must if I'm going to be in any extended conversation with a person. With this in mind, I talk about the different times (and reasons) when my contemplation is halted (usually by someone who wants to control the conversation). Important talking points: intuitive contemplation versus thinking contemplation; immediate impact versus delayed impact; fact versus truth; mansplaining and the body's impact on the knower.