Your Ni Dom

Belonging

This reflection is about domains of belonging and types of shifts when it's time to grow. Supporting themes: Solo- poly; Sex; Work; Family; Culture; Politics; Geography; Social conflict; Schooling: African-Americans; and MAGA-Republicans. Typology: Introverted intuition; INTJs and INFJs; Fi and Se; Type 8s. Note 1: This reflection was influenced in part by an article published by the National Library of Medicine (go to my Twitter account to access the link: YourNiDom1). Note 2: This episode marks the official start of Season 7.

Being a Social Eight

In this reflection, I talk about the Social Eight as social, anti- social and uncover new discovery points for growth. Supporting themes: Personality theories; Theory convergence and divergence; Social as emotional versus social as structural; Social hierarchies; The privileging of dominant groups and pathologizing of subordinate groups; Solo- polyamory; Romance and sex; and Self awareness and self-acceptance. Special note: Text about the Social Eight was read from "The Complete Enneagram" by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut. Typology; INTJ; Type 8; Te and Fe; Three intelligent centers in the Enneagram; Three subtypes for the Eight; Intuition; and Feeling.

Solo- Polyamory

This reflection is a Part 2 to my lifestyle conversation where I focus on relationships. I talk substantially about the ways solo- polyamory speaks to some of my core values and commitments. Supporting themes: Identity; Sex; Relationship- tax; Self- Partnering; Singlehood; Monogamy; Patriarchy; Scripts and stereotypes for women (including black women within the historical context of slavery); Self- care; and Trauma. Special note: This reflection was inspired in part by "Single, Self- partnered, or Solo Polyamory?" written by Amanda Pakutz. Typology: INTJ- Masterminding; Type 8- Intensity; Enneagram subtypes (particularly Sexual and Self- Preservation).

Lifestyle and Work

I start this reflection with three separate but related topics on the brain: Three blobs; Anti- Social; and Business. I moved throughout the reflection linking all three until I concluded with a very important question about lifestyle and work. Supporting themes: Masterminding (with a Capital M); Aims, Goals and Objectives (AGOs); Balanced living; Being visionary; Planning vs taking action; Entrepreneurship; Employment as a strategy; Automating the job searching process. Social Note: This reflection was inspired in part by the book "Pivot and Pursue It" (by Pamela Mitchell). Typology: Type 8; Subtypes and counter-types; and INTJ (planning and calibrating).

The Ruber Band

In this reflection I finally talk about the "rubber band" as a metaphor to explain my social-antisocial relationship with the outer world. Typology: Enneagram Types 8, 5 and 1; Instinctual stack; Social and self-preservation.

Wellness

Attempting to discuss the "rubber band" metaphor, I fall into a rabbit hole early on about self actualization. In the end, I challenge myself (and the listener) to consider three domains of wellness (structural, emotional and spiritual) that, at some point, will need to be integrated into a single wellness plan. Self actualization requires it! Supporting themes: Abuse; Healing and recovery; Dating and polyamory; Education and teaching; Therapy and finding a good therapist; and Entrepreneurship and employment. Typology: INTJ

The Cell

Using the "cell" as a metaphor, I explain the unique way I see the social world. Supporting themes: Boundaries and gatekeepers (the membrane); Power and direction (the nucleus); Social layers, social consciousness, values and norms (the cytoplasm); and People and social interactions (organelles). Typology: Ni

Scripts and Interactions

In this reflection I talk about three social interactions and the scripts that influenced them. The reflection ends with me moving more into a space of ownership and maturity. Supporting themes: Drama characters and cycles; Toxic Family Systems Theory; Mono- cultural neighborhoods; and Upside down power dynamics at work and home. Typology: Fi

The Drama Script

In this reflection I process characters and actors in a drama cycle. [Note: Because of emotional storytelling, this reflection is incomplete.] Supporting themes: Narcissistic family structures; Golden Child; Scapegoat; Narcissistic Trauma; Self- care; Walking Away; Guilt and shame. Influenced by: Patrick Teahan, LICSW (YouTube- "Is There Cheap Intimacy in Your Family") Typology: Fi and Enneagram Type 8

The Amoeba Map

In this reflection I use the amoeba as a metaphor to talk about (toxic) family systems theory and social change. Typology: INTJ,; INTP; Type 8; Survival Instincts: Social. Self Preservation. and Sexual.