Your Ni Dom

Identity, Authenticity, and Growth

In this reflection I talk about the second half of life as a place of liberation. Supporting themes: Maturing; Self- actualization; Social science and social change; Typology; Spirituality;  Trans- sensory experiences; Ego; Therapy and Anger. This reflection was influenced in part by Father Richard Rohr ("Two Halves of Life"). Typology: Cognitive orientation (MBTI) and socioemotional orientation (the Enneagram); INTJ8

Discriminating Harm

In this reflection I am challenged by the notion of being sensitive to harm, trying to decide if all harm is equal, and confronting my truth about what harm (if at all) I will tolerate. Supporting themes: Caring and uncaring; Intimacy; Daughtering when parents are at their end of life; Generational strategies for surviving harm; Social; Healing, self care, and self actualization; Emotional numbness; Inaccessible feelings. Typology: Fi vs Fe

Shadow Work

In this reflection I confront who I am when I linger and love in the shadows. Supporting themes: Family dynamics; Social environment; Solo work; Repression; Subjectivity; Entrepreneurship and employment; and Spirituality. This reflection was inspired in part by 1) DK Findout ("Shadows"); and 2) Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"). Typology; Type Eight instincts; Type 8 Shadows; INTJ Extroversion; Tertiary-Fi.

All Dressed Up

In this reflection I process a current mood and whether or not I will go to an event.

Supporting themes: Sadness; Intimacy; General love; Parental love; Sibling love. 

 

Typology: INTJ8 

The Sexual Me

In Between

In this reflection I talk about growth and needed growth as related to social intimacy. Supporting themes: Overt and covert agendas; Manipulation; Passion and lust; Acting to feel good vs feeling good to act; Family drama scripts; Darkness and suffering. This reflection was influenced in part by Kelsea Ballerini ("In Between:); Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram "); and PsychCentral ("How to Spot Manipulation Tactics"). Typology: INTJ and Types 8, 5, 3, 4 and 2.

Being A Grown A$$ Woman

In this reflection I talk about two events this week that made me realize that I'm functioning authentically, responsibly and purposefully. Supporting themes: Parental role models and personal identities; Power; Leadership; Entrepreneurship; Race; Contracts and contracting; Psychological harm and wellness; access Self- care; Designed living; America's schools. Typology: INTJ, Type 8, and Type 1.

Building the Social Map

In this reflection I talk about mindfully building a social life based on my most authentic, social self. Supporting themes: Entrepreneurship; Friendship; Social conflict; Scope of intimacy; Spirituality; Supervisors and subordination; Conflict and dominance. Typology: Ni, Se, Te, Fi, INTJ, Self- Preservation 8.

The Self

In this reflection I contend with different versions of the self. Supporting themes: Individuation; The individual self, The social self; The collective Self; Dating; Isms; Culture; Enneagram and MBTI subtypes. This reflection was influenced in part by: 1) Beatrice Chestnut (Enneagram subtypes); and) Kenneth Bordens and Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology"). Typology: INTJ and Enneagram Social 5-8-2.

Uppercase ”S”

In this reflection I fully explain RICO as a framework to invisible (psychological) harm ... as the sum-total to smaller, more isolated events. Uppercase "S" represents significance that is pronounced (or criminal) as juxtaposed to lowercase "s" that is isolated and seemingly insignificant. Supporting themes: Donald Trump; Georgia; Co- Defendants; Enterprising; Toxic parenting; Self care; Boundaries; Mothers and daughters; Individuation. This reflection was influenced, in part, by: 1) New York Times ("Trump and Allies in Georgia Face RICO Charges..."); 2) Susan Forward, PhD ("Mothers Who Can't Love "); 3) Very Well Mind ("What is Individuation?"). Typology: INTJ and Type 8