Your Ni Dom

Midwifing

In this reflection I talk about midwifing as an act of intimacy. Note:

This is part of a series of events I'm calling a "pivotal moment." Supporting themes: Friendship levels; Empathy and emotional support; Type 8-Possession; Direction of care and reciprocity; Self worth and self respect.

This reflection was influenced in part by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").

Typology: Enneagram 4; Enneagram 2; Enneagram 8; Enneagram 5; Enneagram 3; INTJ8.

What? So What? Now What?

In this reflection, I end with understanding the ways woundedness has impacted the way I do intimacy and the actions I plan to take as a result. Supporting themes: Theories; Neurodivergence; Giftedness; Enneagram tritype; Intimacy; Vulnerability; Families; Inclusion and exclusion; Rejection; Solo living; Therapy; An overt no vs a covert no. Typology: Enneagram 853; Enneagram 854; Enneagram 852; INTJ8

Lipstick

In this reflection I circle back to my therapist and analyze why. I also recognize my friends' reaction. 

Supporting themes: Giftedness and neurodivergency; Mama trauma; Hidden (covert) aggression; Projection.

 

This reflection was influenced in part by Lynne Azpeitia, M.A. and Mary Rocamora, M.A. (Misdiagnoses of the Gifted") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").

 

Typology: Type 8; Type 6; Enneagram Instincts and Subtypes. 

 

Lifestyle

In this reflection I qualitatively consider lifestyle nuances to being an INTJ Social'Subtype 8.

Supporting themes: Money, Cache and Creativity (main themes); Qualitative research; Multiple selves vs a single self; Leadership; Entrepreneurship; Legal services; Emotional resources; Memory and learning; Long and short term storage. 

 

Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Robert C. Bogdan and Sari Knopp Biklen ("Qualitative Research for Education" p. 43).

 

Note 2: There is no assignment to this reflection because I hope to record a Part 2 first). 

 

Typology: Te; Type 8- Social; Type 8- Sexual; INTJ

The Conundrum

In this reflection I confront the conundrum of living in a world in which I have been masking. Supporting themes: Giftedness, Excitability; Sensitivity; Adultism; Student agency; Mediocrity; Neurotypical behaviors. Typology: INTJ; Type 1; Type 8

Born this Way

In this reflection I talk about who I naturally am in oppressive spaces. Main themes: Group characteristics; Being a Social 8. This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"). Typology: INTJ8

Neurodiversity and Trauma

In this reflection I consider neurodiversity and trauma. Main themes: Stressors for Enneagram Type 8; Intimidation; and Aggression. Special note: I read from three articles (mainly in the last 30 minutes). Those articles will be shared on my Substack (Your Ni Dom). Additional themes: Authenticity; Vulnerability; Intimacy; Fighting; Sibling conflict; Business development and job interviews. Typology: Ni simulation; Te- dominance; Fi/Fe- feelings; Enneagram Type 8

Sideways

In this reflection I use two events to showcase what happens when indirect emotions come out sideways. Supporting themes: Kendrick Lamar and Drake; Unmet friendship needs; Primary and secondary emotions; Super Bowl and political art; Racial diversity and divides; Biracial vs mono-racial; Rap wars (cultural vs structural); Speeding and driving tickets; Astrology and the fire signs. Typology: INTJ8; Types 8, 9 and 1 as the anger cluster.

Metaphysics

In this reflection I consider two different realities... one governed by the material world and the other governed by my imagination. Supporting themes: Beyonce; Grammy's; Genre; Being black and female; Business development; Entrepreneurship; Talent; Recruitment; Manipulation; Job searching; Leadership. Typology: Ni; Te; Fi; Fe; Ti

Paradox

In this reflection I talk about January as a push to recognize and reconcile the paradox of me. Supporting themes: Being public and being private; Being connected to money and being unconnected to money; Being playful and being productive; Being scientific and being spiritual. Podcast 1 and Podcast 2; Neurodivergence giftedness autism and ADHD; Clairvoyance; Scapegoat impact; Yournidom becoming more than just a podcast. Special note: I'm doing a lot of data dumping from January (because I was on a break). Welcome to Season 10! :) Typology: INTJ8; Te and Fi; Fe and Ti.